“You don’t have to know the answers. You just have to be willing to trust yourself through the questions.” — Alex Elle

I’ve been thinking about trust lately.
Not the kind we put in other people but the kind we’re learning to pour into ourselves.

There’s a shift happening for so many of us right now.
A timeline jump. A soul recalibration. A moment where we’re realizing that certainty isn’t something we wait for it’s something we create.

And the truth is, I’ve betrayed my own trust more times than I can count.

Especially in relationships.

I used to be the one who did the most.
You know the type:
“Let me prove I’m loyal.”
“Let me make sure you know I’ll always be there.”
“Let me inconvenience the hell out of myself just so you don’t doubt how much I care.”

It was overgiving. Overexplaining. Over-efforting.
Even when it wasn’t asked for.
Even when it was wildly unnecessary.
Even when it drained me dry.

I thought I was being loving.
But what I was really doing was trying to earn belonging.
I didn’t trust that I was enough without all the doing.

And what do I have to show for all of that now?

Honestly? None of those people are around.
Moment of silence.

But the biggest loss wasn’t them. It was the version of me who thought I had to be everything just to be accepted.

So how do we shift?

How do we stop outsourcing our worth and start standing in self-trust

Here’s what I’ve learned:

1. Trust is a choice before it’s a feeling.

You won’t always feel confident.
You won’t always feel certain.
But that doesn’t mean trust isn’t possible.

“I choose to trust myself.”

Say it. Whisper it. Cry it. Scream it if you need to.
And then do it again tomorrow.

Forgive yourself for when you didn’t know better.
You were doing what you thought you had to do to be safe.
But now? You’re waking up. You’re choosing again.

2. Self-leadership is the bridge.

Every time you keep your word to yourself—
Every time you pause instead of people-pleasing—
Every time you check in instead of checking out—
You build that bridge between the you now and the you you’re becoming.

You lead yourself home.

Ask:

“What would someone I deeply trust do in this moment?”
And then become that person.

3. Open yourself to receiving.

You can’t call in a new timeline while clinging to old survival patterns.
If you want different, you have to create space for different.

“I am open to receiving.”

Say it like you mean it.
Say it like you’ve never let yourself before.

When you lead from trust instead of fear, everything changes— your decisions, your relationship dynamics, your energy.

4. Confidence is built. Period.

It’s not about being fearless.
It’s about having the will to move forward when fear is present.
The skill to keep going (which is always learnable).
And the reps to make it feel like home.

5. Give yourself grace as you grow.

This shift doesn’t happen overnight.
You’re not late. You’re not behind. You’re not doing it wrong.

Learning to trust yourself is a practice.
There will be days when you default to doubt.
Days when you forget your own power.
That doesn’t mean you’ve failed—it just means you’re human.

“The goal isn’t perfection. The goal is presence.”

Let it be messy. Let it be tender.
Just don’t give up on yourself.

Because every single time you return to you—
every time you pause, breathe, and choose again—
you’re rewriting the story. It gets easier.

So what does this all mean?

It means we stop betraying ourselves.
It means we stop over-explaining our worth.
It means we let ourselves be loved without the performance.

It means we choose to trust ourselves, over and over again, until it becomes the only thing that feels real.

💬 Your Turn:

What’s one way you’re learning to trust yourself again?

Drop it in the comments. let’s name it, honor it, and create some resonance around it.

And if this hit home, share it with someone else who’s been learning to trust their own timeline, too.

Written by: Grace Alexis

Timestamp: 8:00 AM PDT